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Dad Defends Wife Who Was Shamed For Being A Stay-At-Home Mum

Dad Defends Wife Who Was Shamed For Being A Stay-At-Home Mum
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A dad took to Facebook to defend his wife after she was belittled for saying she was a stay-at-home parent.

Brad Kearns, 27, from New South Wales in Australia, was offended when a guest at a wedding he and his wife attended assumed looking after kids was an easy job.

The man in question said to Kearns’ wife, Sarah: “Oh so you just stay home and look after the kids?”

Frustrated by this throwaway comment, Kearns, who is dad to Know, aged two, and Finn, six months, shared on Facebook why he believes it was uncalled for.

“I don’t know how this has become a generalisation but it fucking stinks,” he wrote.

“I am really fucking proud of her and everything she’s achieved, which was more accolades and awards for service than this bloke ever will.

“Yet he somehow managed to judge before he asked. I love that she wants to take this time to raise our beautiful children. She will never get this time again.”

Kearns went on to say there is “nothing wrong” with being a stay-at-home parent.

He added: “Don’t judge, don’t assume, don’t anything. Just mind your own business and let people live their life how they want to.

“I am also very proud of Sarah’s response. She kept her cool (much to my amazement as I was about to get the popcorn out).”

The Facebook status, shared on Sunday 25 September, has resonated with stay-at-home parents.

“I’ve chosen to stay at home and raise our daughter and my partner works,” one mother wrote. “He supports me staying home. We are broke as all hell but wouldn’t have it any other way.

“I get sick of people wondering how we financially support ourself. It’s no one else’s business.”

Another dad wrote: “About to start my new job as stay at home dad with our nine-month-old daughter while my wife goes back to work and I’m looking forward to it. Spending quality time with her.

“Already have so many people surprised by this choice.”

Another added: “No job is more important than raising your children to be responsible productive caring members of our society.”

In May 2016, he shared an eye-opening account of the day he gained newfound respect for his wife.

Kearns had to step into the role of stay-at-home parent and provide round-the-clock care for their two sons.

“That was only 16 hours of being a mum. And I failed,” he wrote on the post that resonated with more than 50,000 people.

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