A 15-year-old De La Salle High School student was arrested on Thursday for allegedly assaulting a teenage girl after a playoff football game. No charges have been filed, but USA Today reported that on Dec. 1 the accused student’s father insisted that the incident was consensual, because when “young, fast girls see something they like, they go after it.”
The junior varsity football player’s father, a registered sex offender himself, told local media that his son was innocent and that the victim, a student from neighboring Carondelet, gave her consent.
“He’s tall, dark and handsome, he plays for De La Salle, there’s a lot of girls that want to be with my son,” the 38-year-old father said in an interview with Bay Area News Group. “When young, fast girls see something they like, they go after it.”
This commentary, which suggests that an individual who is considered attractive or desirable is somehow exempt from the ability to assault another person, drastically differs from the alleged victim’s version of events.
“I was there, and I know what actually happened, so I don’t let it get to me,” she told KPIX5. “It’s not OK for this to happen to anyone, and it’s not OK for people, like society, to feel like the person that’s been hurt, that they’ve done something wrong to feel ashamed about the situation.”
The teen girl and her father have called the suspect a “monster,” and have advocated for other students and their parents to talk about sexual assault.
“It’s not OK for this to happen to anyone,” the alleged victim told San Francisco CBS affiliate KPIX. “And it’s not OK for people, like society, to feel like the person that’s been hurt, that they’ve done something wrong to feel ashamed about the situation… Boys need to know that no means no, period. Point blank.”
The teen girl’s father also said that the assault was “an irreversible mistake,” according to a local ABC affiliate.
“I had to sit back and wait while the kid was still going to school across the street from my daughter after he raped her.”
Need help? Visit RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Online Hotline or the National Sexual Violence Resource Center’s website.