This article exists as part of the online archive for HuffPost Australia, which closed in 2021.

Em Rusciano Opens Up About Her Miscarriage On Air

"I feel like every time I laugh or have fun I'm betraying his memory."

On Monday's "Em Rusciano Radio Show with Harley Breen", Em Rusciano revealed her two-week absence from the 2DayFM show was due to a miscarriage.

"I was nearly 14 weeks pregnant... and found out that I'd lost my son, Ray. We named him Ray Valentino, which is an excellent musician name."

Rusciano explained she had never planned to say anything about her absence, but was concerned speculation would cause her to have to speak out eventually, deciding to take control of her own story and speaking out for other women who have been through similar experiences.

"It's been a time of questioning all that I hold dear, and also a time of realising that one in four pregnancies end this way and when I talked about it publicly, I had upwards of 20 thousand women say 'this has happened to me as well', and I think it's something we don't talk about. Not because we're ashamed, but it's deeply personal and it happens inside your body so it's like the ultimate betrayal of your body. It's hard not to blame yourself and wonder what you've done wrong."

Rusciano went on to thank the support she had from other women around the country who were sharing their stories after she posted the news on her Facebook.

"All the support I've received has been so amazing, and it's been heard... I just wanted to let all the women know I feel you and I see you, and I know the fact that you got through it and you were able to tell me there's a light under the door has really helped me.

"It's something that I think has re-wired my cells and my DNA," Rusciano said, "I feel like every time I laugh or have fun I'm kind of betraying his memory but what I found out the last two weeks is you can be happy and sad at the same time -- which is what I've been."

Rusciano also shared an image of a necklace engraved with the names of her three children, which she ordered before Ray passed away.

On both posts, fans are showing support as well as sharing their own experiences with miscarriage, thanking Em for her openness and courage in speaking out.

Click below to subscribe to the Refresh podcast by HuffPost Australia on iTunes.

ALSO ON HUFFPOST AUSTRALIA

Close
This article exists as part of the online archive for HuffPost Australia. Certain site features have been disabled. If you have questions or concerns, please check our FAQ or contact support@huffpost.com.