Freelance writer and Fairfax New Zealand columnist
Freelance writer Lee Suckling is a passionate LGBTI activist, etiquette expert, and personal health advocate. He has a Master of Journalism, writes three columns each week for Fairfax New Zealand, and contributes to various publications across Australia, New Zealand, and the UK.
The Antipodean experience is much like that of the British: If you need help, we think there must be something really wrong with you. This is why I've felt like I was coming out again in the past few weeks, as after years of hiding, I've finally been telling people: "I'm in therapy".
Not only do I completely reject the idea of LGBT kids trying to physically do violence upon their bullies, the idea that violence is somehow "conditioning" for harder knocks in life further perpetuates this ham-fisted Antipodean belief that if you're given "the bash", it's your duty to bash back.