DIVORCE

What This Portrait Of My Grandma Reminds Me About Love

There's a great backstory behind this lovely portrait.

23/02/2016 10:43 AM AEDT | Updated 23/02/2016 10:43 AM AEDT
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If there's ever a time you need a little distraction in your life, it's during the divorce process. That's why we launched our Divorce Care Package series. With each post, we'll show you what things -- books, movies, recipes -- helped others relieve stress in the midst of divorce, in the hopes that a few of their picks will serve you well too. Want to share what got you through your divorce? Email us at divorce@huffingtonpost.com. 

When her marriage ended after seven years, children's book author A.S. Chung found comfort in expected and unexpected places.

Below, Chung, who lives in Melbourne, Australia with her toddler, tells us more about what helped her heal after her divorce three years ago.

  • The Song
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    "Music has always been a dynamic medium and a powerful tonic to soothe my soul or provide me with a boost every now and again. During my divorce, Swedish House Mafia’s 'Don’t You Worry Child' was my go-to song. An odd song choice some might say but the song chose me and its melancholy lyrics resonated ('Don't you worry, don't you worry child/See heaven's got a plan for you'). The song crescendos in all the right places and when it peaked, it always gave me a sense of invisibility and incredibly energy. It provided me with a steely outlook of 'I will beat this!'”
  • The Quote
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    "My ex-husband made a cliché move and decided his pursuit of happiness could be found somewhere else, in someone else’s arms. This quote provides me with two things. First, accepting that I simply wasn’t the one and he had found his patch of green. Although at present it may seem a futile exercise on my behalf, I have to understand that it is working for him. Second, it is a reminder for me: How I choose to live my life is dependent on the positive choices I make."
  • The Book
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    "Bestselling author Paulo Coelho produced several books that generated all the emotions I needed to process through divorce. None resounded with me more than 11 Minutes, a book which on its surface is about prostitution, the sacred nature of sex and the pain love can bring. The novel is really about the ramifications of living a life devoid of love. Only in accepting her inner self does the character find everlasting love."
  • The Work Of Art
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    "This is a beautiful painting of my grandmother, Emily, by artist Yeen Danser, my aunt. The painting depicts an aura of loveliness and strength and I am reminded of the love story of how she left a wealthy, handsome man for the love of my grandfather, a poor Chinese immigrant. Four children, 10 grandchildren and three great-grandchildren later, we watched their marriage survive a lifetime. Even after their passing, I am enlightened by their tenacity and their love. The rich and vibrant colors are suitably uplifting and complement her vivacious nature."
  • The Movie
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    "I have always loved 'Sliding Doors,' a movie which reminds us that a split-second decision can lead us onto two completely different paths. All Gwyneth Paltrow's character did was miss the train whereas I jumped off my train. I knew that the future held a path unknown to me but the end could be beautiful. This movie brought the romantic notion of hope back to my life."

 

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