02/03/2016 3:35 PM AEDT | Updated 15/07/2016 12:51 PM AEST

This Is Why: The Heartbreaking Value Of A Same-Sex Marriage Certificate

Facebook / Lara Ryan

The value of a marriage certificate for same sex families is being brought into heartbreaking clarity in a letter by a woman whose wife died unexpectedly.

Lara Ryan has penned a touching message describing the additional anguish caused during the already traumatic aftermath of her wife's death in a pedestrian accident.

This is why.Because having lost my partner in a horrible pedestrian accident this month I had to ask policemen if I was...

Posted by Lara Ryan on Sunday, February 28, 2016

In the post, she said the absence of a marriage certificate made paperwork to secure her family's future "ridiculous" but the desire to be legally married went beyond bureaucracy.

"And most of all because I love her, and she has been my every day for ten years, She is the mother of our two girls, she is the future I dreamed of and she is my safe place to land.

"Because love is love and we should celebrate it and encourage it always.

"The world is harsh enough."