3. Make the effort to meet the people you’re talking to.
It’s really easy to fall into a rabbit hole of off-and-on messaging the stranger on the other side without actually trying to plan a date. It’s less intimidating to have a pen pal than it is to meet someone in real life.
This year, if you haven’t discussed meeting up soon after you meet someone online, don’t stick around, New York–based relationship expert and author April Masini told Bustle.
“If they haven’t asked you out or didn’t respond to your suggestion to meet, it’s probably not going to happen, and if it does, there’s no sense of urgency on their part,” she said.
4. Be honest about what you want.
If someone’s profile says “just looking for a hookup” or a person tells you that’s all they want ― but that’s not what you want ― move on. The same goes for you if you’re looking for just a hookup: be clear about your intentions. It’ll make the process less stressful for all parties involved.
5. Don’t judge a book by its cover.
Neely Steinberg, dating coach and personal image consultant, told The Huffington Post that daters need to remember that profiles are just profiles.
“I’ve worked with so many women who were on the fence about a guy who emailed them, judging every little thing about their emails and/or profile, but ended up falling for those very men after meeting them in person. You just never know, so try to rein in your assumptions and judgements if you find yourself becoming overly picky about who you’re open to connecting with.”
6. That said, try to make your profile stand out.
Steinberg emphasized that creativity is key.
“Spend some time crafting something playful, unique, and creative... You want a prospective match to think: ‘Wow, great pictures, imaginative profile. I just have to meet this person.’”