Listening to the games makes me cringe with embarrassment. Don't get me wrong -- I love to see the kids playing nicely together, making things up, being creative and so on -- it's the parroting that I can't stand. Because my daughter's characters always sound just like me.
A motherhood challenge seems to carry its own brand of smugness and competition. Turning that joy and pleasure into a competition to rake up views and entice validation is not going to create any winners in the end.
At a recent social event, the conversation flowed until it came to the question: "So how is your daughter going?" It's a difficult question to answer when you have a medically fragile child.
I'm distracted by the digital world. It's a paradox of simultaneous connection and disconnection. I realise I'm not living fully in the moment when I'm trying to immortalise our memories together. And yet, I feel I have little choice in the matter.
I am not a fan of the smug, know-it-all kind who tell you how to nurture/care for/raise your kids. The worst is people telling you how you should feel, especially about your own kids. But her words stuck with me for a reason.
It's often only when the snuggle is less forthcoming that you realise how important it has been. And sometimes you'll find you need it more than they do.
Everything in life has its season. Sometimes we get stuck in a winter that we wonder if it will ever end. But one day soon, when the hardest work is done, you will celebrate the triumph of spring.
Until we remove the stigma that comes with the biological fact that women carry the children and give birth, we aren't going to have a level playing field. Men should be encouraged to take time away from their careers to share the privilege of being with their children in those precious first few years of life. In return, their partners could return to the workforce earlier, or at least have the choice to do so.
The other day my husband coined the phase: 'You're the Yin to my Yang'. And that is certainly the case with how we both approach this new special-needs parenting gig.
There are some truths about parenthood you just can't escape. It's actually quite affirming to know that you are not alone. No matter how isolated you feel sitting on the floor pretending to be Olaf from Frozen, all around the world millions of people are going through the same thing.